Allowing things to be what they are, enjoying the experience, unfolding in a natural order lends itself to charm. Fretting, worrying or trying too hard will sabotage genuine grace. Laziness, apathy or avoidance will not ever give it a chance.
Be what you are and allow your very unique charm to emerge. You will surprise yourself with how lovely you are. Nothing's perfect, in fact it's what's not perfect that makes things irresistibly charming. Letting things be what they are and enjoying the experience is the natural order of life. Childlike creativity in a very adult world is always the place to be.
You are beautiful and perfect just the way you are. Allow your charm to breathe. :)